by Chaima Kenache, Content Team Contributor
Holidays have always been displayed as a time of joy and connection, whether that’s through advertisements or newsletters. It is clear that Christmas is supposed to be an enjoyed and an untroubled time for everybody who celebrates. Despite this, Christmas can often bring a unique set of tests and anxieties for individuals to overcome, this is often neglected by social media. These anxieties often rely on the unspoken societal expectations for perfection and the desire to create the perfect festive atmosphere for loved ones even when we may not have the means to do so financially. The overwhelming expectation of having an abundance of food and a beautifully decorated home is simply unachievable for some struggling with money matters. However, this can still leave Individuals feeling worthless and inferior to other’s for not being able to cope with the idealized and ‘perfect’ version of Christmas celebrations. Despite 1 in 4 Britons experiencing anxiety (or depression) during Christmas, this issue is not universally acknowledged. The pressure to afford extravagant gifts, decorate elaborately, and partake in costly activities reinforces the notion that anxiety over these “luxuries” is not the norm regardless of the amount of people struggling.
Christmas is the most celebrated holiday globally so family gatherings and festivities in large groups are not only common but also expected. For those dealing with social anxiety, these events can be sources of immense stress. The fear of judgement, pressure to engage in small talk, and the discomfort of large crowds can turn what should be an enjoyable occasion into anxiety- inducing experiences. Once again, a large portion of feeling social anxiety during this period stems from this unrealistic expectation of perfection. You can feel anxiety over your ability to have good organization and planning skills (if you’re hosting) simultaneously whilst keeping an open mind to meeting new people and attending large scale events which for those struggling can be extremely difficult. Many people suffering from social anxiety feel as though they must ‘step out of their comfort zone’ and although this could be beneficial, it shouldn’t be forced upon them. Moreover, those suffering should not feel pressured by societal expectations or norms to behave in a way that is uncomfortable just to ‘blend or fit in’ with the rest as to not stand out and be different.
However, there are ways to try and limit the amount of anxiety those may feel during the holiday period. To mitigate holiday anxiety, practicing self-care is crucial. Setting realistic expectations and acknowledging the unattainability of perfection can alleviate pressure. Prioritizing activities like proper sleep, taking breaks when overwhelmed, and practicing mindfulness exercises helps manage tension and anxiety. Budgeting and setting financial limits on materialistic aspects, such as gifts, are essential for maintaining lower stress levels. Clear communication and setting boundaries with friends and family contribute to a more manageable and enjoyable season.
In conclusion, to uphold Christmas as a time of joy and connection for everyone, it is vital to recognise and address the tribulations and anxieties associated with it. By preserving in the face of anxiety and resisting societal pressures for perfection, we can foster a more inclusive and fulfilling holiday season as a community.
